Foolish Fidelity = Monotonous Monogamy

Guest post today by Scono Sciuto —


I just don’t get the whole point of monogamy.  I mean really, just one person, for the rest of a lifetime? It is nothing more than a social protocol handed down by the repressed and prudish Puritans that landed on Plymouth Rock. It makes no sense…

Imagine, just one food for the rest of your life?
Imagine, just one beverage to drink, one pair of pants to wear, one suit, one shirt?
Imagine, just one soap to use, shampoo, toothbrush?

It is often said that marriage is the cure for a great sex life, and that is true, if a great sex life is there from the beginning.

If you are a man, imagine only tasting the emanations of one vagina for years, or even decades.  Do you know that all women taste different.  One beautiful, succulent snatch isn’t the same as the other. They have a different scent, a different taste, a different feel, and they all respond differently to your touch.

Imagine, having your cock sucked the same way two to three times a month, if that often.
Imagine, the same boring sexual position time after time?
Imagine, never savoring what another woman tastes like, feels like, moves like….

Just the same over, and over, and over…

If you are a woman, imagine having to look at and touch the same cock each and every time you have sex?  Think about the same size and shape filling you time after time.  No variety, no change of pace.  And imagine, having the same taste in your mouth, each and every time.  Like women, all men taste different, feel different, have a different scent, make you respond differently and respond differently to you.

Imagine, having your clit licked the same way two to three times a month, if that often.
Imagine, the same boring sexual position time after time
Imagine, never savoring what another man tastes like, feels like, moves like….

Just the same over, and over, and over…

Variety is what makes life worth living.  Think of how incredible it would be to have a different lover several times a week.  A new scent, a new taste, a new position, a new shape, a new size… something exciting and different with each and every encounter.

That is what sex should be about… as many different lovers, as many different positions, as many different passions and many different experiences over the course of a lifetime.

Did you save yourself for that one special person?
Did you ever think about cheating?
Did you finally cheat?

Was that the thought enticing?
Was the new lover exciting?
Was it incredible to have a new person touch you, feel you, pleasure you, make you come in ways you never had before?

Abandon the puritanical bullshit that has been preached to you your entire life. We aren’t talking about esoteric, fantasyland, Hollywood, romantic love… We are talking about unbridled passion, insatiable lust, fucking and being fucked for the sake of our own hedonistic, selfish pleasure…..

…That is what a wild sexual life is all about.

To see the light, we must enter the darkness.

Chase new experiences, and embrace the wild.

16 thoughts on “Foolish Fidelity = Monotonous Monogamy

  1. I mean the thoughts of tasting another man or being touched with a different man is mouth watering and enticing. It sets out my whole body on fire but my question is, what if they are boring? Imagine wasting all that energy with a man that can not touch you how you want? I think I am okay with one person who is deliberately willing to try new positions every single time we engage in sex.


    1. If the new one is boring, find another, and another and another. Why limit ourselves to one, or a few experiences? We are only here for a short time, shouldn’t that short time, be a good time?
      Embrace The Wild Fantasies was written after discussions with many women. It appeared are recurrent them of those who became unfaithful later in life,was that even those who thought they were in satisfying relationships realized that they weren’t. And even those who were relatively satisfied, became even more intense sexual beings, bringing that renewed lust and passion to their “primary” partners, taking their sex lives to new highs. The Stories, Embrace The Wild, Angelic Adultery, and Submissive Is Dominance, explores these themes.

      Thank you for taking the time to read and to comment


  2. My opinion……If a person is truly happy living that lifestyle of having many lovers, then I say live it. But the opposite is also true for many. I’ve been with one man only & I’m 49yrs old. The thought of being with someone else &/or being with someone else is in all honesty an exciting thought. But only if feelings & emotions are not involved. Which we know we cannot control. It hurts my heart more to think about him being in love with anyone besides me more than just merely fucking someone else. Make sense?


    1. I agree, many of the women who participated in the discussion were over 50 and had been married about 25 years. Their sexual exploration was purely sexual. Most, not all, were still in love with their primary partner, and as of that time, didn’t tell their primary partner.
      It is individual of course, but I think jealousy and even love, are learned or conditioned responses. If we were raised, as in some other cultures, with a more open attitude about sex and sexuality, I wonder if those negative emotions would still exist.
      Many discussions were used to help write parts of The Embrace The Wild Fantasies.
      Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment.


  3. I agree……I think it’s definitely our culture/how we are raised. Everyone of us, no matter where we come from……are conditioned to think & behave a certain way from birth. I don’t know anyone personally that practices a poly lifestyle. But I’ve read a lot on it. From what I’ve read……jealousy is a normal part of it from time to time. The ones who claim success with the lifestyle gives advice on how to work through jealousy. For me…….I don’t want to have to work through it lol

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  4. I have been married three times, the first for ten horrible years, the second and third for six months but I love being puritanical to me its heaven knowing that the partner I am with at the moment can do all the different positions and that he loves the way I respond. Mine and only mine. It makes me feel special and it makes him feel special. I have no reproach for those who wants to move on from one to the next but being puritanical enlightens me beyond belief.


    1. In the beginning, I didn’t sit down and interview people as a plan to write the stories. The stories grew out of discussions I had with women who were friends, acquaintances, colleagues, lovers, and those with whom I was in relationships.
      We are talking in the range of about 45-50 different people over about a ten year span. And then an additional, twenty or so, all of whom were being unfaithful at the time, that I specifically talked with concerning the subject, specifically to increase knowledge and gather viewpoints for the stories.


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