Loneliness when writing?

On a recent post I was asked the following question….

Q – Do you really experience loneliness when you write? A lot of writers say writing is lonely but I don’t understand how it is lonely.

My answer, which has been re-written a bit from the original response…

A – Yes. But, at least for me, that isn’t a negative.

I don’t really enjoy the company of others. Actually, more accurately, I am not comfortable in the presence of others. It can get to the point where I am stricken with intense anxiety and overwhelming dread. Unfortunately, like many, I am forced into situations of being among a group, at times to the point where if I refuse, my livelihood will be jeopardized.  Because of the risk of potential financial repercussions, in my professional life, I have adopted an outward joviality — which is more a forced persona, while the solitary writer, perched over a keyboard, creatively conjuring characters, is the image which is more authentic and the persona with which I am most comfortable.

As far as how it can be lonely. Thankfully, how can it be anything but? Unless doing a direct collaboration, there is no one but the writer. Either setting up a distraction free environment, or using tools to block out the world, we design a space to deliberately limit interactions or conversations. It is a solo endeavor that is unto itself, the very definition of alone and, for my true self, a temporary Garden of Eden.

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9 thoughts on “Loneliness when writing?

  1. I also have the company of certain of my characters, even when I’m not writing. But when I’m immersed in the creation of a piece, I’m in another world completely. I think this is why I love writing so much; being in that very special space.

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    1. Hi Monica,
      Perhaps, a person can be lonely in a crowd. But also, I don’t think the terms are mutually exclusive. In my military days, there were moments of prolonged seclusion, that were both solitary and lonely. As far as writing, I don’t really differentiate that much.

      The activity itself, at least for me, is both solitary and lonely, but not always as secluded as I would like. When the writing session is completed, the option, for some, to not be solitary or lonely is available. For the truly isolated, that may not be the case.

      It is an interesting conversation. Someone like Hemingway was often surrounded by groups of people, but when he wrote, he secluded himself, so for him, maybe it was an activity of loneliness.

      There just might be a story in this subject.

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