“…in this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.”
Benjamin Franklin “
…all living things have to die. … We all die, some of us sooner than later.”
There are events that make us aware of our own mortality. I have had three definitive instances in my lifetime.
Most of us know that one day we are going to die. As we have grown into adulthood, we have lost loved ones.
What do we do?
We reflect, we take a moment, especially if someone dies suddenly or unexpectedly, to realize that one day that will be us.
Sometimes we reflect for more than a moment, other times even less.
However long we reflect, or pause, we move on and forward, but inside we may not genuinely believe that one day, that will be us.
Our mortality is one of those intangibles in life, because it is so hard to grasp.
We learn by experience, and while a brush with death, battling a life threatening illness or a near death experience may remind us that we are merely mortal — we may not actually accept the fact that one day we will no longer be.
It is the difference that matters.
We can be aware that we will one day die, but we may not really in our hearts accept it.
For most, we look at our death as something that may happen, and if we concede the certainty, we cling to the belief that the day is a long way off.
After my cardiac catheterization, I went from being aware of, to accepting my ultimate demise.
It was a moment that freed me of many of my worries and concerns.
It was a moment of spiritual liberation.
To not only know, but genuinely and whole-heartedly accept the one truth about life.
That one truth is, the welcoming of death allows the unbridled living of life.
I have written and spoken about the detriments of negative energy.
It was a concept that until the moment of my mortality acceptance, that was more metaphysical than substantive.
When I embraced my mortality, when I allowed myself to welcome the truth that one day I will die — it was then that I fully began to live.
The revelation prevented the real worries of daily living to negatively impact my life.
The revelation prevented the uncontrollable actions of others to dampen my joy of living.
The revelation allowed me to no longer complain, whine and chatter endlessly about the unimportant aspects of every day existence.
I do not love, nor even like, the area in which I reside.
I despise the smothering attitude of despair and hopelessness.
I am not a fan of cold temperatures, icy roads, snow or any other aspect associated with the annual arrival of winter in the Northeastern United States.
However, right now, at this moment in time, this is where I am.
I am here because of decisions that I made.
So instead of bemoaning the aspects I don’t care for, I endeavor to focus exclusively on the positives that are present. Sometimes, they are difficult to find, but find them I must.
I am not always steadfast and consistent and sometimes I wane.
To err is human, and it is also human to forgive — not only others, but more importantly ourselves as well.
I not only acknowledge and accept, but dare I say relish my mortality.
Once again, I embrace the dawn of each and every new morning.
When I go out for a jog, in the sometimes very frigid morning air, I allow the briskness of the atmosphere to stimulate my senses.
When the white precipitations falls from the sky, instead of grumbling about shoveling it, I will look forward to the manual work I will be physically capable of performing.
It is about perspective.
In the cold temperatures, I have a warm place to sleep.
In tough financial times, I have a family and friends to love me and a family and friends for me to love.
I try to live in the moment and never put off enjoying my life.
I recently went to Southern California to visit my sister and nephews.
Money isn’t as free as it has been in the past.
For a very brief moment, I thought I should not go.
I juggled some bills, put off others and made the trek west.
The boys will only be young for a brief period of time and I want to be part of it as often as I can.
I have a goal of changing my residence to a warmer climate, near the ocean and earning enough to unite my family in that one location.
Yet, as I work and plan toward that goal, I accept, that for reasons beyond my control, my life may end before I get there.
Therefore, I will not allow today’s joy to pass, in hopes of a tomorrow’s that may never arrive.